Wedding Guide for Family & Friends
A “Wedding Day” touches lives far beyond the Happy Couple. A wedding day requires a great deal of planning, and while perfection is the aim, most agree that a day becomes perfect when everyone is in the moment, relaxed and enjoying the celebration!
We have created the following guide for family and friends who have asked that common question, “What is my role on Wedding Day?”
The following will help the Mother of the Bride, Father of the Bride, Mother of the Groom, Father of the Groom, friends and extended family alike know exactly what to expect on the Big Day.
Who Pays for What?
The Bride and her family traditionally pay for the following:
- The wedding ceremony site, church or synagogue, etc.
- Ceremony music
- The bride’s dress, veil, accessories, lingerie and honeymoon clothes
- All floral arrangements including ceremony and reception flowers, bouquets for bridal party and corsages for flower girls
- All wedding day photography and videography
- The Wedding Reception: including food, drink, decorations and music
- Invitations, announcements and programs
- Groom’s ring
- Pre-wedding engagement party
- Bridesmaids luncheon
- Wedding transportation for bridal party and/or family to and from the wedding ceremony site and reception
The Groom and his family traditionally pay for the following:
- Marriage license and officiant’s fee
- Groom’s outfit
- Bride’s bouquet and toss bouquet or going away corsage, boutonnieres for men and corsages for mothers and grandmothers
- Complete honeymoon: including airfare, lodging and spending money
- The Rehearsal Dinner: including food, drink, decorations, music and/or entertainment
- Both of the bride’s rings
The Bridal Party traditionally pays for the following:
- Wedding clothing, shoes and accessories
- Maid or Matron of Honor and bridesmaids host showers and/or bachelorette party
- Best Man and ushers host the bachelor party
- Friends may throw additional engagement parties or showers
What's My Role?
Father of the Bride
Alongside walking the bride down the aisle, the Father of the Bride traditionally acts as host for the wedding day, greeting guests at the ceremony and reception. The FOB usually participates in a private family photo session with the bride and groom either before or during the wedding reception. The Father of the Bride may decide to deliver a toast during the reception to both honor the happy couple and thank guests for attending. The FOB will typically dance with the bride at a moment delegated as the “Father-Daughter Dance” during the reception.
Father of the Groom
The Father of the Groom is best known for being host of the wedding rehearsal dinner. Typically, the FOG makes a toast or speech mid-way through the rehearsal dinner to honor the bride and groom and thank guests for attending. The FOG may also be asked to deliver a toast during the wedding reception alongside the FOB. The Father of the Groom acts as host with the FOB to welcome guests on wedding day both to the ceremony and reception. In some cases where ushers are not present, the FOG directs guests to their seats. The Father of the Groom usually participates in a family photo session with the bride and groom either before or during the wedding reception.
Mother of the Bride
While The Mother of the Bride is usually featured as a VIP guest and walked down the aisle by an usher ahead of the wedding party, she is also typically honored with the tradition of helping the bride into her wedding attire. The MOB may also decide to host the wedding day hair/makeup session for the bridal party, either at her home or in a salon. The MOB may choose to add special touches to the Big Day such as champagne in the bridal suite and light snacks for the bridal party.
Mother of the Groom
While The Mother of the Groom is usually featured as a VIP guest and walked down the aisle by an usher ahead of the wedding party, she may also choose to help arrange reception decorations, such as flower centerpieces, favors, guest-signing book, etc. The Mother of theGroom usually participates in a family photo session with the bride and groom either before or during the wedding reception. The MOG will typically dance with the groom at a moment delegated as the “Mother-Son Dance” during the reception.
Typically the Maid or Matron of Honor remains at the bride’s side throughout the wedding day, holding flowers, tissues, touch-up make-up, the veil, wedding dress train, etc. Traditionally, the Maid or Matron of Honor gives a toast to the bride and groom and leads the way alongside the bridal party for guest dancing, where applicable. Most often, the Bridal Party removes decorations and wedding gifts (per the bride and groom’s instruction) following the bride and groom’s departure.